"I can almost see it,
That dream I am dreaming, but there's a voice inside my head saying
"You'll never reach it"
Every step I'm taking, every move I make feels lost with no direction.
My faith is shaking, but I gotta keep trying, gotta keep my head held high.
There's always gonna be another mountain.
I'm always gonna wanna make it move.
Always gonna be a uphill battle.
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose.
Ain't about how fast I get there. Ain't about what's waiting on the other side.
It's the climb
The struggles I'm facing.
The chances I'm taking, sometimes might knock me down.
But no, I'm not breaking, I may not know it.
But these are the moments that, I'm gonna remember most, yeah.
Just gotta keep going, and I, I got to be strong.
Just keep pushing on
Keep on moving, keep climbing
Keep the faith, baby it's all about, it's all about the climb.
Keep the faith, keep your faith, whoa"
Friday, November 20, 2009
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Shari's Mission and the numbers
As you all know by now, Shari needs a bone marrow transplant. In the last month, there have been four drives to help Shari and others like her find their match. In less than one month, Shari's Mission has helped add close to 1400 people to the bone marrow registry in Canada. That may seem like an amazing number, and of course it is, especially to the over 800 people currently waiting for their bone marrow match to save their life.
This adventure is all about the numbers. For Shari, numbers relate to her levels when they are down, and she is neutropenic (An abnormal decrease in the number of neutrophils in the blood). That means it is very dangerous for her to catch any germs, infections, etc for her body is not able to fight off any infections, which is bad for anyone in her situation. But, when her numbers are UP, it means she has engery, can go for walks, can see her friends and family, can go out for sushi (yay for sushi), and means that she is getting stronger every day. Numbers....when Shari was in PMH (Princess Margaret Hospital) the numbers are put up every day after chemo, and we all waited...to see them start to climb which showed us that she was coming out of the bad times.
But now, the numbers means something different. These are the numbers that have been thrown around to me the last six weeks:
- about 27 million eligable Canadians in Canada, and only 250,000 are on the bone marrow registry.
- over 800 people are currently waiting for bone marrow matches
- there are many different types of cancers that need and require bone marrow for a patient's survival.
The question is: how can we raise awareness to the need for people in our community, the city, the province, and beyond to step up and get tested to see if they can save a life.
One Match, is the arm in Canada for this. Once you are in their website (http://www.onematch.ca ) you can read about the who, what, where when why and how about blood services, stem cells and bone marrow. Why should I donate, How can I donate. It is very simple, you do it on line, and they mail you a kit, swab, and send it back....simple...BUT there are other ways as well.
I should also stress the importance of giving blood and platlets. I have a friend who is a regular platlet donor, and I can tell you that he is helping saves lives as well. Shari has had to have lots of blood and platlets to survive. So, every small part, is HUGE to someone else. More than I ever imagined.
As I said at the start of this post, Shari's Mission (http://www.sharismission.com ) has been holding bone marrow drives and will continue to do so, until we find a match for Shari, and beyond, to help all the others.
Our next MAJOR event will be on Monday November 23rd from 4-9pm at Hava Nagila Banquest hall (1118 Centre Street in Thornhill). Shari's brother Rob, is challenging the community at LARGE to support this event. Everyone needs to 'pay it forward' and come out to register. Plain and simple - PEOPLE NEED YOU!
I know that many people are already on the list from past drives for others in need. I understand that. But many of you are not. What YOU need to do is just pass this on, and let everyone you know, know about this. Let them decide if they want to help save a life.
I hope that you can do this. I hope that you agree that you can do your small part to help someone else.
I know that I am probably starting to sound like Jerry Lewis with my pleas for help for Shari and others like her, but it is all true. It is probably easier to help with a bone marrow drive, than it is to help find a cure for Muscular Dystrophy. I am not comparing...I am just sayin'.....
Please feel free to contact me at any time if you have any questions, concerns, want to volunteer, want to know more about....whatever....if I know the answers, I will tell you. If I don't, I will try to find out.
This adventure is all about the numbers. For Shari, numbers relate to her levels when they are down, and she is neutropenic (An abnormal decrease in the number of neutrophils in the blood). That means it is very dangerous for her to catch any germs, infections, etc for her body is not able to fight off any infections, which is bad for anyone in her situation. But, when her numbers are UP, it means she has engery, can go for walks, can see her friends and family, can go out for sushi (yay for sushi), and means that she is getting stronger every day. Numbers....when Shari was in PMH (Princess Margaret Hospital) the numbers are put up every day after chemo, and we all waited...to see them start to climb which showed us that she was coming out of the bad times.
But now, the numbers means something different. These are the numbers that have been thrown around to me the last six weeks:
- about 27 million eligable Canadians in Canada, and only 250,000 are on the bone marrow registry.
- over 800 people are currently waiting for bone marrow matches
- there are many different types of cancers that need and require bone marrow for a patient's survival.
The question is: how can we raise awareness to the need for people in our community, the city, the province, and beyond to step up and get tested to see if they can save a life.
One Match, is the arm in Canada for this. Once you are in their website (http://www.onematch.ca ) you can read about the who, what, where when why and how about blood services, stem cells and bone marrow. Why should I donate, How can I donate. It is very simple, you do it on line, and they mail you a kit, swab, and send it back....simple...BUT there are other ways as well.
I should also stress the importance of giving blood and platlets. I have a friend who is a regular platlet donor, and I can tell you that he is helping saves lives as well. Shari has had to have lots of blood and platlets to survive. So, every small part, is HUGE to someone else. More than I ever imagined.
As I said at the start of this post, Shari's Mission (http://www.sharismission.com ) has been holding bone marrow drives and will continue to do so, until we find a match for Shari, and beyond, to help all the others.
Our next MAJOR event will be on Monday November 23rd from 4-9pm at Hava Nagila Banquest hall (1118 Centre Street in Thornhill). Shari's brother Rob, is challenging the community at LARGE to support this event. Everyone needs to 'pay it forward' and come out to register. Plain and simple - PEOPLE NEED YOU!
I know that many people are already on the list from past drives for others in need. I understand that. But many of you are not. What YOU need to do is just pass this on, and let everyone you know, know about this. Let them decide if they want to help save a life.
I hope that you can do this. I hope that you agree that you can do your small part to help someone else.
I know that I am probably starting to sound like Jerry Lewis with my pleas for help for Shari and others like her, but it is all true. It is probably easier to help with a bone marrow drive, than it is to help find a cure for Muscular Dystrophy. I am not comparing...I am just sayin'.....
Please feel free to contact me at any time if you have any questions, concerns, want to volunteer, want to know more about....whatever....if I know the answers, I will tell you. If I don't, I will try to find out.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
Sushi - the connection between friends
When I started eating sushi many years ago, my repetoire consisted of california rolls, cucumber rolls, tempura and teriaki. Over the last few years, several all you can eat sushi places have popped up in my area (one in the back of my condo) and I have been able to try new things. I love sushi now, and have been known to go a couple times a week if asked...lunch, dinner...you ask, if I can go, we go.
So, when Shari called yesterday and told me she had a craving for sushi, I jumped at the chance. It was more about seeing her than eating the sushi, especially since yesterday was her last day of chemo. I had my niece's birthday party at night, so we agreed to meet for an early dinner at the place near my condo.
I was so happy to see her. I knew that she had a 'fanny' pack with her chemo that she took home, but I was surprised to see her take it out of her purse! I didn't realize it was with her, attached to her, at all times! Especially when she got up to pay, but didn't remember that she was attached to her purse - not something you should forget!
We ordered lots of food, and started to talk, and laugh and share. The last few months, we haven't had a lot of times that were filled with our usually crazy stories, funny stories and laughter. (yes, there was lots of 'girl' talk). It is quite funny actually, I have been to this restaurant with other friends, and we get VERY engrossed in our conversations, that we don't even realize people coming and going. We are in our own space, and place in time. It is hard to explain, but it is very special. I have shared many sushi meals with friends, and when you look at your watch...you don't even realize that you have been there for almost three hours sometimes! A quick dinner, is no less than a 90 minute affair, that's what it was last night.
Of course we talked about cancer, and the bone marrow and what comes next. I hope that Shari will be well enough to come to the donor drives and see how many people care about her and hope that she can 'kick cancer in the ass' and beat this thing. I will be there with my camera on hand at all times, so even if she isn't there, she will know what went on. When, not if, you come to one of the three drives, please make sure you see me so that I can take your picture.
Shari, I look forward to the next time we can share salmon sashimi, sushi pizza, shrimp tempura and more. Stay strong and healthy and I hope that with the events in the next few weeks, that you will be able to get what you need and be able to share years and years of sushi meals with me!
For everyone reading this, if you are not already on the bone marrow registry list, PLEASE do one of the following:
- join on line at http://www.onematch.ca or http://www.giftoflife.org
- come to one of the three events happening in the next few weeks at the following locations:
So, when Shari called yesterday and told me she had a craving for sushi, I jumped at the chance. It was more about seeing her than eating the sushi, especially since yesterday was her last day of chemo. I had my niece's birthday party at night, so we agreed to meet for an early dinner at the place near my condo.
I was so happy to see her. I knew that she had a 'fanny' pack with her chemo that she took home, but I was surprised to see her take it out of her purse! I didn't realize it was with her, attached to her, at all times! Especially when she got up to pay, but didn't remember that she was attached to her purse - not something you should forget!
We ordered lots of food, and started to talk, and laugh and share. The last few months, we haven't had a lot of times that were filled with our usually crazy stories, funny stories and laughter. (yes, there was lots of 'girl' talk). It is quite funny actually, I have been to this restaurant with other friends, and we get VERY engrossed in our conversations, that we don't even realize people coming and going. We are in our own space, and place in time. It is hard to explain, but it is very special. I have shared many sushi meals with friends, and when you look at your watch...you don't even realize that you have been there for almost three hours sometimes! A quick dinner, is no less than a 90 minute affair, that's what it was last night.
Of course we talked about cancer, and the bone marrow and what comes next. I hope that Shari will be well enough to come to the donor drives and see how many people care about her and hope that she can 'kick cancer in the ass' and beat this thing. I will be there with my camera on hand at all times, so even if she isn't there, she will know what went on. When, not if, you come to one of the three drives, please make sure you see me so that I can take your picture.
Shari, I look forward to the next time we can share salmon sashimi, sushi pizza, shrimp tempura and more. Stay strong and healthy and I hope that with the events in the next few weeks, that you will be able to get what you need and be able to share years and years of sushi meals with me!
For everyone reading this, if you are not already on the bone marrow registry list, PLEASE do one of the following:
- join on line at http://www.onematch.ca or http://www.giftoflife.org
- come to one of the three events happening in the next few weeks at the following locations:
- October 20th - 3:30 - 8:00pm - 4700 Bathurst Street (Council House for Jewish Women)
- October 31st - 10:00 - 6:0pp - Hillcrest Mall (The bay Kids entrance)
- November 1st - 10:00 - 6:00pm - 4700 Bathurst street
To read more about Shari and her story, please check out http://www.sharismission.com
Thursday, October 8, 2009
what a week...and it is not over yet
Where do I begin? This week has been a rough week all around. Not necessarily for me personally, but for people around me. There have been, I think at last count, six deaths and funerals this week for people that I know or through friends know. Not to mention, the death of a hamster and a dog. AND it is only Thursday.
The age ranges are huge - spanning from a 99 year old man to a 38 year old man. Opposite sides of the spectrum. I can somehow rationalize the passing of a 99 year old man, as someone who has lived a full life, but a 38 year old man? That is a life not yet lived.
During the eulogy, it was mentioned that we are not only grieving for the life lost, but for the life not lived. All the dreams not yet realized and all the experiences not yet experienced. It was so sad. This being said, this young man was a Princeton and Harvard Graduate who was working at the UN. He travelled to Congo and all over the world. He lived life, but for 38 years, it was not a long enough life.
I also realized that friendship doesn't know about time. I sat in a row with people I knew over 25 years ago. Some I have crossed paths with over the years, others not. Some crossed paths with the friend who passed, and some came because there was at time in our lives that we were everything to each other. We all went, and were all affected by his life and his passing. At least I can speak for myself about that.
Just to elaborate on that time in our lives, it was BBYO (B'nai Brith Youth Organization) that linked all of us together. It fostered friendships that obviously last a life time, as well as a strong sense of community and your part in it. It is as true today as it was 25 years ago when I was in the program. I still have friends today from that time, and I think will be in my life in some aspect always.
As I have said over and over this year, I have been faced with my own mortality and now a friend's mortality. It is very hard to imagine 'what if' or 'what happens next' and who knows when that time comes, what it will be like. I just know that I want to hang on to what I have right now and not let go.
The age ranges are huge - spanning from a 99 year old man to a 38 year old man. Opposite sides of the spectrum. I can somehow rationalize the passing of a 99 year old man, as someone who has lived a full life, but a 38 year old man? That is a life not yet lived.
During the eulogy, it was mentioned that we are not only grieving for the life lost, but for the life not lived. All the dreams not yet realized and all the experiences not yet experienced. It was so sad. This being said, this young man was a Princeton and Harvard Graduate who was working at the UN. He travelled to Congo and all over the world. He lived life, but for 38 years, it was not a long enough life.
I also realized that friendship doesn't know about time. I sat in a row with people I knew over 25 years ago. Some I have crossed paths with over the years, others not. Some crossed paths with the friend who passed, and some came because there was at time in our lives that we were everything to each other. We all went, and were all affected by his life and his passing. At least I can speak for myself about that.
Just to elaborate on that time in our lives, it was BBYO (B'nai Brith Youth Organization) that linked all of us together. It fostered friendships that obviously last a life time, as well as a strong sense of community and your part in it. It is as true today as it was 25 years ago when I was in the program. I still have friends today from that time, and I think will be in my life in some aspect always.
As I have said over and over this year, I have been faced with my own mortality and now a friend's mortality. It is very hard to imagine 'what if' or 'what happens next' and who knows when that time comes, what it will be like. I just know that I want to hang on to what I have right now and not let go.
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Is it just me?
I am trying to figure out if it is just my heightened awareness to Cancer and organ donation or has the television media just ran out of story lines and now they all seem to use it as a plot line. Why are TV shows choosing the "illness card" more and more?
1. Grey's Anatomy - Izzie Stevens, well we all know her story. She was flatlined and ready for death at the season finale, but she signed her contract, is now a patient living with Cancer and no longer 'surgical'. I suppose that is what happens after you finish treatment and you start to live a normal life again....is it?
2. Young and the Restless - this summer, they decided to give a beautiful young woman, with everything to live for Ovarian Cancer. And they did a REALLY bad job with it. They made her have surgery, and they had to give her a full hysterectomy, BUT they saved her eggs for harvesting with her husband in the future.
When she started her chemo, she decided to shave her head BEFORE the chemo even started. From what I witnessed first hand this summer, it wasn't until about a week after the chemo was completed that hair starts to fall out. And I KNOW it is television, but this 'patient' looked good for a patient undergoing chemo.
3. Young and the Restless - used it again this past week. One patient was brain dead and another needed a heart. When they decided to end her life, they noted that she was an organ donor and they proceeded to give her heart to the sick patient.
4. Dr. Phil - a few weeks ago had on 8 donors and recipients that have given their kidney's to others. It was also a subject on last years Grey's Anatomy, but these surgeries actually happened.
5. Commercials - I just saw a commercial today about a child that received a bone marrow transplant for a rare condition that they had and now they are alive and well and thriving again.
6. Mercy - a new show, pretty good actually. The first episode was with an 'older' lady who had cancer and she was tired of all the treatments her kids were making her go through. She did not want any more procedures. Her nurse told her that she had a choice, and she could choose no more treatments.
7. Brothers and Sisters - now Kitty has been plagued with the cancer card. She has lymphomia, and on Sundays episode she had to undergo a bone marrow biopsy to confirm her condition. All of this is very real to me and what I have witnessed this summer.
I watch a lot of TV and a lot of them are dramas, so it comes with the territory, but the reality of life is enough for me, now it is in so much of what I watch. Sometimes too much. But, I will probably continue to watch, well...because I like my shows.
Did I miss any shows that you watch? leave me a message, I would like to know how many other shows out there are using the cancer or illness card in their story lines.
The reality of Shari Silverman is that she needs a bone marrow transplant. If you haven't already done so, you need to register on line at www.onematch.ca or you need to come to one of the clinics that are being held at the end of this month. Please read this article from this week's CJN paper - http://www.cjnews.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=17753&Itemid=86
1. Grey's Anatomy - Izzie Stevens, well we all know her story. She was flatlined and ready for death at the season finale, but she signed her contract, is now a patient living with Cancer and no longer 'surgical'. I suppose that is what happens after you finish treatment and you start to live a normal life again....is it?
2. Young and the Restless - this summer, they decided to give a beautiful young woman, with everything to live for Ovarian Cancer. And they did a REALLY bad job with it. They made her have surgery, and they had to give her a full hysterectomy, BUT they saved her eggs for harvesting with her husband in the future.
When she started her chemo, she decided to shave her head BEFORE the chemo even started. From what I witnessed first hand this summer, it wasn't until about a week after the chemo was completed that hair starts to fall out. And I KNOW it is television, but this 'patient' looked good for a patient undergoing chemo.
3. Young and the Restless - used it again this past week. One patient was brain dead and another needed a heart. When they decided to end her life, they noted that she was an organ donor and they proceeded to give her heart to the sick patient.
4. Dr. Phil - a few weeks ago had on 8 donors and recipients that have given their kidney's to others. It was also a subject on last years Grey's Anatomy, but these surgeries actually happened.
5. Commercials - I just saw a commercial today about a child that received a bone marrow transplant for a rare condition that they had and now they are alive and well and thriving again.
6. Mercy - a new show, pretty good actually. The first episode was with an 'older' lady who had cancer and she was tired of all the treatments her kids were making her go through. She did not want any more procedures. Her nurse told her that she had a choice, and she could choose no more treatments.
7. Brothers and Sisters - now Kitty has been plagued with the cancer card. She has lymphomia, and on Sundays episode she had to undergo a bone marrow biopsy to confirm her condition. All of this is very real to me and what I have witnessed this summer.
I watch a lot of TV and a lot of them are dramas, so it comes with the territory, but the reality of life is enough for me, now it is in so much of what I watch. Sometimes too much. But, I will probably continue to watch, well...because I like my shows.
Did I miss any shows that you watch? leave me a message, I would like to know how many other shows out there are using the cancer or illness card in their story lines.
The reality of Shari Silverman is that she needs a bone marrow transplant. If you haven't already done so, you need to register on line at www.onematch.ca or you need to come to one of the clinics that are being held at the end of this month. Please read this article from this week's CJN paper - http://www.cjnews.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=17753&Itemid=86
Monday, September 14, 2009
5769 The year that was
As I approach the end of the year 5769 I have been thinking about how our lives are defined by the events that occur and what happens after those events and how it relates to our life and changes it. Think back, and if it relates to you where you were when, just to name a few:
- JFK, Robert Kennedy and Martin Luther King.
- Challenger blowing up in 1986, and Discovery 2003
- The Tsunami 2004, Hurricane Katrina 2005
- 9/11
For me, my event this year was my car accident - February 21st, 2009. I don't really have memories of the year prior to that date, but so many since that date. It is amazing how in a split second in time our life is forever changed.
I spent the last six months recovering from my car accident. It is not just the six months of therapy that I just completed, which I am very grateful for. I have known people in my life who have become addicted to pain killers after an accident and thought to myself, "man, I don't ever want to live in chronic pain in my life". Well, my left arm is like a dull ache, pretty much all the time. Some days I can ignore it, other days I know that it is there. When the weather changes, after working out, when I spent hours and hours each day trying to make a living at my computer.
I spent the last six months learning about friendship. How serious events can either really help a friendship, or hurt it. I have had both. People have choices that they have to make as it relates them in the situation - do I stay, step up and be the friend that the person needs, or do I run and hide from the reality of the situation and bury my feelings in my own life and needs of my own. I have friends who have done both.
And most recently (in July 2009) I was faced with my own choice of "should I stay or should I go now?" A very dear friend, as most of you know, is now facing the challenge of her own life, fighting and surviving AML Leukemia. The day that she told me about her diagnosis, again, is a moment this year that I will never forget. It moved February 21, 2009 out of the front of my brain for the first time in months and let me think about something (and someone) else.
I always say, that every action has a reaction, and people need to find ways to go through life and learn from their actions and reactions. "Pay it forward" is what its called. What you can do for others and the gratification that you get from it.
A few months after my accident, I was at the drive through Tim Horton's and paid for the order of the person behind me. I have heard of people doing that, but I never have. You know what, it feels good. For those of you who don't know, two men actually got me out of my car before the police and EMS arrived. I don't know who they were and never will. So, for this I say thank you and do unto others.
Offering to spend time visiting a friend in the hospital, helps the family of the loved one. So, you read your book and watch your friend sleep, just so you can be the face that they see when they wake up. That is paying it forward. Because the reality of the situation is you can't really do a freaking thing for this person or their family other than that. Stand up, be present and be there. Don't run away because of your own fears. Helping others actually helps you come to terms with your fears.
Don't get me wrong, I have had so much good in my life since February 21st, 2009 as well. I took two amazing trips - to NOLA (New Orleans) in march with another dear friend, and more recently to Vegas with my parents. Both trips, ironically enough, happened shortly after the two life altering events in my life this year. Both trips helped me cope with the life changes and made me escape, if just for a few days, and laugh, smile and enjoy life.
I would be remiss if I didn't mention how you can see the hopes and dreams of the future when you look at children. My two nieces amaze me every moment I am with them. In the last few weeks I have seen my 4 1/2 year old niece morph into this incredible 'mature' young girl, who took me to Claire's boutique the other night to look at earings (she doesn't have her ears pierced), braclets, necklaces, and make up. We went shopping yesterday, and she walked over the rack and pulled a top off and said, "Auntie Lisa, this is your favourite colour, you would look beautiful in this." So many moments just blow me away. She took me to her room last night, to show me her new 'lipstick' - princess lip balm. And my other niece, who will be 3 in a few short weeks is mastering the art of toilet training and starting school. There is such pride in her face when she pees in the toilet and the high fives and praise she is giving from everyone around her. These are the moments I will keep close to my heart always.
So, now we move onto to our new year - the year 5770 and what lies ahead for all of us, really is a mystery. We will go and pray over the next few weeks and repent for our wrongdoings this year and then pray for us to be sealed in the book of life for the upcoming year. That probably means more to me this year than others.
Spend the next few days before Rosh Hashana thinking about the past year and what has happened in your life. Was there a life altering event, or something that happened that made you stop in your tracks and go, "hmm, I wonder what all that was about". Were you present in your life? What lessons did you learn and how will that change what you do moving forward?
This is my new years greeting to you - Shana Tova U'Metukah - may we all rejoice with our family and friends and enjoy a healthy, happy and properous new year!
- JFK, Robert Kennedy and Martin Luther King.
- Challenger blowing up in 1986, and Discovery 2003
- The Tsunami 2004, Hurricane Katrina 2005
- 9/11
For me, my event this year was my car accident - February 21st, 2009. I don't really have memories of the year prior to that date, but so many since that date. It is amazing how in a split second in time our life is forever changed.
I spent the last six months recovering from my car accident. It is not just the six months of therapy that I just completed, which I am very grateful for. I have known people in my life who have become addicted to pain killers after an accident and thought to myself, "man, I don't ever want to live in chronic pain in my life". Well, my left arm is like a dull ache, pretty much all the time. Some days I can ignore it, other days I know that it is there. When the weather changes, after working out, when I spent hours and hours each day trying to make a living at my computer.
I spent the last six months learning about friendship. How serious events can either really help a friendship, or hurt it. I have had both. People have choices that they have to make as it relates them in the situation - do I stay, step up and be the friend that the person needs, or do I run and hide from the reality of the situation and bury my feelings in my own life and needs of my own. I have friends who have done both.
And most recently (in July 2009) I was faced with my own choice of "should I stay or should I go now?" A very dear friend, as most of you know, is now facing the challenge of her own life, fighting and surviving AML Leukemia. The day that she told me about her diagnosis, again, is a moment this year that I will never forget. It moved February 21, 2009 out of the front of my brain for the first time in months and let me think about something (and someone) else.
I always say, that every action has a reaction, and people need to find ways to go through life and learn from their actions and reactions. "Pay it forward" is what its called. What you can do for others and the gratification that you get from it.
A few months after my accident, I was at the drive through Tim Horton's and paid for the order of the person behind me. I have heard of people doing that, but I never have. You know what, it feels good. For those of you who don't know, two men actually got me out of my car before the police and EMS arrived. I don't know who they were and never will. So, for this I say thank you and do unto others.
Offering to spend time visiting a friend in the hospital, helps the family of the loved one. So, you read your book and watch your friend sleep, just so you can be the face that they see when they wake up. That is paying it forward. Because the reality of the situation is you can't really do a freaking thing for this person or their family other than that. Stand up, be present and be there. Don't run away because of your own fears. Helping others actually helps you come to terms with your fears.
Don't get me wrong, I have had so much good in my life since February 21st, 2009 as well. I took two amazing trips - to NOLA (New Orleans) in march with another dear friend, and more recently to Vegas with my parents. Both trips, ironically enough, happened shortly after the two life altering events in my life this year. Both trips helped me cope with the life changes and made me escape, if just for a few days, and laugh, smile and enjoy life.
I would be remiss if I didn't mention how you can see the hopes and dreams of the future when you look at children. My two nieces amaze me every moment I am with them. In the last few weeks I have seen my 4 1/2 year old niece morph into this incredible 'mature' young girl, who took me to Claire's boutique the other night to look at earings (she doesn't have her ears pierced), braclets, necklaces, and make up. We went shopping yesterday, and she walked over the rack and pulled a top off and said, "Auntie Lisa, this is your favourite colour, you would look beautiful in this." So many moments just blow me away. She took me to her room last night, to show me her new 'lipstick' - princess lip balm. And my other niece, who will be 3 in a few short weeks is mastering the art of toilet training and starting school. There is such pride in her face when she pees in the toilet and the high fives and praise she is giving from everyone around her. These are the moments I will keep close to my heart always.
So, now we move onto to our new year - the year 5770 and what lies ahead for all of us, really is a mystery. We will go and pray over the next few weeks and repent for our wrongdoings this year and then pray for us to be sealed in the book of life for the upcoming year. That probably means more to me this year than others.
Spend the next few days before Rosh Hashana thinking about the past year and what has happened in your life. Was there a life altering event, or something that happened that made you stop in your tracks and go, "hmm, I wonder what all that was about". Were you present in your life? What lessons did you learn and how will that change what you do moving forward?
This is my new years greeting to you - Shana Tova U'Metukah - may we all rejoice with our family and friends and enjoy a healthy, happy and properous new year!
Sunday, July 19, 2009
insight...from Lululemon?
I know that a lot of people love Lululemon. I don't owe any Lulu yet. Since we are living in a 'greener' world, where the reusable bag is becoming a fashion statement, I must comment on the Lululemon bag.
A friend of mine, who pretty much lives in Lululemon, gave something to me in one of the re-useable bags. She also promised me that when I reach my personal goals, she will buy me my frist Lulu outfit. I am working on that. I admit I really didn't look at the bag too much...until today.
I was coming up from visiting my friend at the hospital today, and had the time on the subway to read what written on the bag. There are some really profound statements.
Here are just a few of them:
- Do one thing a day that scares you.
- Life is full of setbacks. Sucess is determined by how you handle setbacks.
- Friends are more important that money.
- That which matters the least, should never give way to that which matters the most.
- Dance, Sing, Floss and travel.
- Visualize your eventual demise. It can have an amazing effect on how you live for the moment.
Getting back to my life before my car accident has had its challenges. I also think that the events of the last couple of weeks have made me realize to be thankful for something each day. Most people forget to be thankful every day, and I think that is shame.
Tell your loved ones you love them, each and every day.
A friend of mine, who pretty much lives in Lululemon, gave something to me in one of the re-useable bags. She also promised me that when I reach my personal goals, she will buy me my frist Lulu outfit. I am working on that. I admit I really didn't look at the bag too much...until today.
I was coming up from visiting my friend at the hospital today, and had the time on the subway to read what written on the bag. There are some really profound statements.
Here are just a few of them:
- Do one thing a day that scares you.
- Life is full of setbacks. Sucess is determined by how you handle setbacks.
- Friends are more important that money.
- That which matters the least, should never give way to that which matters the most.
- Dance, Sing, Floss and travel.
- Visualize your eventual demise. It can have an amazing effect on how you live for the moment.
Getting back to my life before my car accident has had its challenges. I also think that the events of the last couple of weeks have made me realize to be thankful for something each day. Most people forget to be thankful every day, and I think that is shame.
Tell your loved ones you love them, each and every day.
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Life altering days
It is amazing how many things actually happen between blog posts. I think to myself when I think about something that I should come home and blog about it, but then it doesn't happen.
In the last 10 days a lot has happened. I don't want to tell someone else's story, so I will just say how I feel about it. When I first got the call and heard the news, I had to actually ask "what are you talking about" because what I was hearing was unbelieveable. After getting off phone I had to call my mom and express my disbelief and what I can only explain as anger. I was mad, why did this have to happen? What is going to happen now? How do they feel? How do I feel? There are no answers for some of my questions, and I have to just learn to accept that. I don't have to like it, but all we can do is move forward.
So, the rest of the week was spent with worry, feelings of helpless, and just wanting to know, "what do you need?, what can I do for you? what comes next?". Then I got the news that my friend was admitted to Princess Margaret and would begin an approximate 4 week stay there. I just wanted to go there.
So, I did. On saturday. I took the subway (separate blog to follow) and went to see my friend. I was happy that we were alone for a little bit before her family came. I got to see her, give her a gift for her daughter and let her know that I am here for her and her family. The days that have followed since, haven't been as good, so I can hold keep the memory of our visit in my thougths.
People can say what they want about Facebook, but I think that everything has its pros and cons. My friends brothers have started a group on Facebook that they are constantly updating her how she is doing, and what her status day to day. This is a good thing since there are so many people that want to reach out to this family. But when the days are not good, no visitors allowed. So, this is a way for people to post notes of supports, share stories and photos and just share love for the human spirit. It is amazing actually. This group has over 330 members in less than one week.
Another friend, another brave survivor, told me that there are two choices people make when dealing with illness or trauma - you can stay and be present or you can leave, and run the other way. I choose to stay. I will do what I can, when I can. I know that I will feel like I need to do more, but there is nothing more to do becaue you simply can't DO anything.
My friend and I love James Taylor (the original JT) and see him whenever he comes to town. There are so many songs that we love (hers is Up on the Roof), but nothing will ever be like, "You've got a friend"
When you're down and troubled, and you need some loving care.
And nothing, nothing is going right. Close your eyes and think of me, and soon I will be there.
To brighten up even your darkest night.
You just call out my name, and you know wherever I am, I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall, all you have to do is call and I'll be there.
You've got a friend.
If the sky above you, grows dark and full of clouds.
And that old north wind begins to blow. Keep you head together, and call my name out loud.
Soon you'll hear me knocking at your door.
You just call out my name, And you know wherever I am, I'll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer or fall, all you have to do is call, and I'll be there.
Ain't it good to know that you've got a friend, when people can be so cold.
They'll hurt you, and desert you, and take your soul if you let them,
So, don't you let them.
You've got a friend in me, always.
In the last 10 days a lot has happened. I don't want to tell someone else's story, so I will just say how I feel about it. When I first got the call and heard the news, I had to actually ask "what are you talking about" because what I was hearing was unbelieveable. After getting off phone I had to call my mom and express my disbelief and what I can only explain as anger. I was mad, why did this have to happen? What is going to happen now? How do they feel? How do I feel? There are no answers for some of my questions, and I have to just learn to accept that. I don't have to like it, but all we can do is move forward.
So, the rest of the week was spent with worry, feelings of helpless, and just wanting to know, "what do you need?, what can I do for you? what comes next?". Then I got the news that my friend was admitted to Princess Margaret and would begin an approximate 4 week stay there. I just wanted to go there.
So, I did. On saturday. I took the subway (separate blog to follow) and went to see my friend. I was happy that we were alone for a little bit before her family came. I got to see her, give her a gift for her daughter and let her know that I am here for her and her family. The days that have followed since, haven't been as good, so I can hold keep the memory of our visit in my thougths.
People can say what they want about Facebook, but I think that everything has its pros and cons. My friends brothers have started a group on Facebook that they are constantly updating her how she is doing, and what her status day to day. This is a good thing since there are so many people that want to reach out to this family. But when the days are not good, no visitors allowed. So, this is a way for people to post notes of supports, share stories and photos and just share love for the human spirit. It is amazing actually. This group has over 330 members in less than one week.
Another friend, another brave survivor, told me that there are two choices people make when dealing with illness or trauma - you can stay and be present or you can leave, and run the other way. I choose to stay. I will do what I can, when I can. I know that I will feel like I need to do more, but there is nothing more to do becaue you simply can't DO anything.
My friend and I love James Taylor (the original JT) and see him whenever he comes to town. There are so many songs that we love (hers is Up on the Roof), but nothing will ever be like, "You've got a friend"
When you're down and troubled, and you need some loving care.
And nothing, nothing is going right. Close your eyes and think of me, and soon I will be there.
To brighten up even your darkest night.
You just call out my name, and you know wherever I am, I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer or fall, all you have to do is call and I'll be there.
You've got a friend.
If the sky above you, grows dark and full of clouds.
And that old north wind begins to blow. Keep you head together, and call my name out loud.
Soon you'll hear me knocking at your door.
You just call out my name, And you know wherever I am, I'll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer or fall, all you have to do is call, and I'll be there.
Ain't it good to know that you've got a friend, when people can be so cold.
They'll hurt you, and desert you, and take your soul if you let them,
So, don't you let them.
You've got a friend in me, always.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Chick Lit not Chiclets
From what I have read on facebook, a lot of my 'friends' are really into these vampire books and can't get enough of them. I have to say, not my thing. I am a die hard, can't put them down, chick lit reader. For those of you who don't know what 'chick lit' is - easy - girl stories. Stories about women, love, loss and all that. I am not talking Fabio cover romance novels, but I am talking about current stories of professional women (usually taking place in my fave city, NYC). The books are current, and they quote movies, stores I know and love, restaurants I hear about all the celebs going...blah blah blah.
okay, back to the books. FB has a new 'list' going around about the best 15 books you have ever read. I wouldn't really put any of these as the BEST books I have ever read, but it is summer, and if you are looking for an easy read, on your balcony, or porch, cottage deck, or boat...or hey even a beach if you book a trip with me (plug plug), these are for you.
Sheryl Steinberg - Opprotunity Rings - I bought it, but haven't read it yet - but she is local and someone I know, and I always support people I know. It has been getting great reviews and I bought the last one when I was at Indigo (that was a few weeks ago, so I am sure there is more now)
Lauren Weisberger - Chasing Harry Wintson - I just finished this on Saturday - loved it.
She is also the author of Devil Wears Prada and Everyone worth knowing. Both books are also amazing.
Emily Giffin - Love the One You're With - finished recently - great book.
Emily also has a series of three books - Something borrowed, Something Blue and Baby Proof which all have some links that play through all the books, and they are ALL great.
Sophie Kinsella - Remember me - I must admit, I was not a fan (surprise surprise) of the Shopaholic series of books. I couldn't get into it, but Remember me is not part of that series and it was easy to get into and very enjoyable. I read this while I was in Puerto Vallarta in october for my cousin's wedding. Maybe I will give the Shopaholic books another shot...maybe....
Jennifer Weiner - Little Earthquakes - read this on the plane ride to New Orleans in March. Great book, especially if you are a soon to be mom, or a new mom (of which I am neither, but still a good read).
Jennifer is the author of In Her Shoes and Good in Bed. I have read and enjoyed both.
Leslie Schnur - Late Night Talking - which I admit I hadn't heard of the author but the back cover made me by it, because it takes place in NYC (fave city note above) and it was about a radio host, and one of my best friends works in radio, so I thought what the heck? And it wasn't bad.
Elin Hilderbrand - Barefoot - a nice summer read. I hadn't heard of this author either, but I thought it sounded nice. Very 'cape cod' inspired and relaxing. She apparently has three other books, but I haven't picked them up yet.
okay, I am about to admit something here - I read Tori Spelling's book - sTori Telling, and quite enjoyed it. Since I was (am) a die hard 90210 girl at heart, and all the shows that her dad used to do, AND watched her reality shows, I wanted to read her story. It was good. Most of the stuff was not 'news' due to the media, but it was a good read. When her new book Mommywood comes out in paperback, I am sure that I will pick that up.
I am reading a book now called Trophies written by a former actress Heather Thomas - who was on the show called the The Fall Guy....seems pretty good so far. I will report whenI am done.
I hope that someone reads at least one of the books I have talked about here, and tells me what they thought.
If you have a book that you have read, that you think I would enjoy, please let me know. I am always looking for something new or a new author to check out!
Happy Reading.....
okay, back to the books. FB has a new 'list' going around about the best 15 books you have ever read. I wouldn't really put any of these as the BEST books I have ever read, but it is summer, and if you are looking for an easy read, on your balcony, or porch, cottage deck, or boat...or hey even a beach if you book a trip with me (plug plug), these are for you.
Sheryl Steinberg - Opprotunity Rings - I bought it, but haven't read it yet - but she is local and someone I know, and I always support people I know. It has been getting great reviews and I bought the last one when I was at Indigo (that was a few weeks ago, so I am sure there is more now)
Lauren Weisberger - Chasing Harry Wintson - I just finished this on Saturday - loved it.
She is also the author of Devil Wears Prada and Everyone worth knowing. Both books are also amazing.
Emily Giffin - Love the One You're With - finished recently - great book.
Emily also has a series of three books - Something borrowed, Something Blue and Baby Proof which all have some links that play through all the books, and they are ALL great.
Sophie Kinsella - Remember me - I must admit, I was not a fan (surprise surprise) of the Shopaholic series of books. I couldn't get into it, but Remember me is not part of that series and it was easy to get into and very enjoyable. I read this while I was in Puerto Vallarta in october for my cousin's wedding. Maybe I will give the Shopaholic books another shot...maybe....
Jennifer Weiner - Little Earthquakes - read this on the plane ride to New Orleans in March. Great book, especially if you are a soon to be mom, or a new mom (of which I am neither, but still a good read).
Jennifer is the author of In Her Shoes and Good in Bed. I have read and enjoyed both.
Leslie Schnur - Late Night Talking - which I admit I hadn't heard of the author but the back cover made me by it, because it takes place in NYC (fave city note above) and it was about a radio host, and one of my best friends works in radio, so I thought what the heck? And it wasn't bad.
Elin Hilderbrand - Barefoot - a nice summer read. I hadn't heard of this author either, but I thought it sounded nice. Very 'cape cod' inspired and relaxing. She apparently has three other books, but I haven't picked them up yet.
okay, I am about to admit something here - I read Tori Spelling's book - sTori Telling, and quite enjoyed it. Since I was (am) a die hard 90210 girl at heart, and all the shows that her dad used to do, AND watched her reality shows, I wanted to read her story. It was good. Most of the stuff was not 'news' due to the media, but it was a good read. When her new book Mommywood comes out in paperback, I am sure that I will pick that up.
I am reading a book now called Trophies written by a former actress Heather Thomas - who was on the show called the The Fall Guy....seems pretty good so far. I will report whenI am done.
I hope that someone reads at least one of the books I have talked about here, and tells me what they thought.
If you have a book that you have read, that you think I would enjoy, please let me know. I am always looking for something new or a new author to check out!
Happy Reading.....
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Wait for a break in play
As you know by now, I, like most people, have pet peeves, little things that just annoy me. Well, here is another one of my peeves - at a baseball game, people that decide to get up right in the middle of a batter up at bat, or while a play is going on. Not only do they interupt your view, you have to put your drink or dog, or pizza or beer down, just to get out of the way. How hard is it to wait for a batter change or a break in the play, really?
Today I was at Skydome watching the Jays sadly lose with men on base at the bottom of the ninth (Vernon Wells struck out to end the game, sucky!), but I digress....the game. My friend and I arrived just as the first inning got under way and there was a batter at the plate. We, along with at LEAST 6 other people, were patiently waiting at the top of the stairs for our turn to walk down and some idiot with a slice of pizza and two beers says, "excuse me" and wants to go down the stairs. To which the skydome attendant asks him to wait while the batter is up. He seemed to be annoyed by this and houghed and puffed and then moved away from me. Within minutes we were on our way to our seats. Thankfully, idiot man was not near us.
During the 7th inning stretch I decided to take my pee break (Ava Avila, Canadian Idol was singing take me out to the ball game, good time to leave), and by the time I came back, again, there was a batter at the plate. This time the two attendants were standing on the stairs blocking them from us to go down. Another idiot with two beers in his hand tries to go down the stairs, and AGAIN, he is stopped...what is wrong with people? Why do they think we are all STANDING up at top of the row as opposed to sitting in our seats enjoying...WE ARE WAITING PEOPLE, JUST LIKE YOU!
Since they no longer play the WHOLE blue jay song at the 7th inning (Player references are dated), I thought I would dig it up and post it here for you Jay fans to enjoy:
You've got a diamond, You've got nine men, You've got a hat and a bat
And that's not all, You've got the bleachers
Got 'em from spring 'til fall, You got a dog and a drink
And the umpire's call, Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
Okay (okay)
Blue Jays (Blue Jays)
Let's (Let's) Play (Play) Ball!
Is that a fly ball, Or is it a seagull
Coming in from the lake, Just to catch the game?
It's the last inning, Our guys are winning
Dave's put down a smoker, A strike, And you've got no doubt
(You're out!)
Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
It's a beautiful evenin', fans, At the ballpark, Warm summer breezes
Sun's goin' down, And it's all dark, At the ballpark
But that's okay…it's a night game, Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
Bring on the White Sox, Bring on the BoSox, Bring on the Brewers
The Rangers and the Yankees too
We'll beat the Indians, We'll beat the Tigers
We'll beat the A's so bad it'll make, Billy blue
Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
Today I was at Skydome watching the Jays sadly lose with men on base at the bottom of the ninth (Vernon Wells struck out to end the game, sucky!), but I digress....the game. My friend and I arrived just as the first inning got under way and there was a batter at the plate. We, along with at LEAST 6 other people, were patiently waiting at the top of the stairs for our turn to walk down and some idiot with a slice of pizza and two beers says, "excuse me" and wants to go down the stairs. To which the skydome attendant asks him to wait while the batter is up. He seemed to be annoyed by this and houghed and puffed and then moved away from me. Within minutes we were on our way to our seats. Thankfully, idiot man was not near us.
During the 7th inning stretch I decided to take my pee break (Ava Avila, Canadian Idol was singing take me out to the ball game, good time to leave), and by the time I came back, again, there was a batter at the plate. This time the two attendants were standing on the stairs blocking them from us to go down. Another idiot with two beers in his hand tries to go down the stairs, and AGAIN, he is stopped...what is wrong with people? Why do they think we are all STANDING up at top of the row as opposed to sitting in our seats enjoying...WE ARE WAITING PEOPLE, JUST LIKE YOU!
Since they no longer play the WHOLE blue jay song at the 7th inning (Player references are dated), I thought I would dig it up and post it here for you Jay fans to enjoy:
You've got a diamond, You've got nine men, You've got a hat and a bat
And that's not all, You've got the bleachers
Got 'em from spring 'til fall, You got a dog and a drink
And the umpire's call, Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
Okay (okay)
Blue Jays (Blue Jays)
Let's (Let's) Play (Play) Ball!
Is that a fly ball, Or is it a seagull
Coming in from the lake, Just to catch the game?
It's the last inning, Our guys are winning
Dave's put down a smoker, A strike, And you've got no doubt
(You're out!)
Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
It's a beautiful evenin', fans, At the ballpark, Warm summer breezes
Sun's goin' down, And it's all dark, At the ballpark
But that's okay…it's a night game, Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
Bring on the White Sox, Bring on the BoSox, Bring on the Brewers
The Rangers and the Yankees too
We'll beat the Indians, We'll beat the Tigers
We'll beat the A's so bad it'll make, Billy blue
Waddaya want?
Let's play ball!
(Chorus)
Thursday, June 4, 2009
The breasts are in
I think I am like most people, I read the grocery flyers each week and try to make a stop where the best deals are for the products I want. I am not sure if you have read the flyer for Real Canadian Superstores, but they are HEAVY into the Club Packs, and the signage all over the stores is "Club Pack, we beat COSTCO"....so, they had skinless bone in chicken boobs on sale for $1.99lb this week. *NOTE* Flyer runs from Friday to Thursday so today is the last day of the flyer.
I make my way through the veggie aisle, to the bakery to get a cake for my dad's birthday, and onto the meat and poultry section. To which I find...NO club pack chicken boobs. I proceed to the butcher area and ask the man (young) behind the counter, "do you have the chicken breasts?" (I refrain from saying boobs to him). He replies, not yet, shortly. To which I ask, "shortly, meaning 1/2 hour?" His reply is what pissed me off, "Ma'am, I don't know, I am not driving the truck!" First of all, I HATE when people call me ma'am, and secondly, is that necessary? Simply I can't tell you what time, the truck makes deliveries to all our stores, would have sufficed.
I continued to stroll around the store looking at products, and happened to see the manager walking around. I decided to tell him what happened at the meat counter. I was pissed off. He apologized and said that even though his staff was probably just joking, the sarcasm was not necessary. He also said that he couldn't confirm when the truck would be here, since they DO in fact deliver to all the stores, BUT he would issue me a rain check for the product (we normally don't do that he says). I thanked him, and proceeded to self check out and then to customer service.
As I am about to leave the store, I bump into a friend of mine coming in and we stand and chat for a few minutes. While we were chatting, an employee runs up to me and tells me that the breasts have just arrived. So, I say good-bye and head back into the store to buy my chicken boobs.
Here is the punchline......
As I am walking BACK into the store...the manager, who is now on the 2nd floor of the store, YELLS out to me...."Ma'am....the breasts are in...."
I make my way through the veggie aisle, to the bakery to get a cake for my dad's birthday, and onto the meat and poultry section. To which I find...NO club pack chicken boobs. I proceed to the butcher area and ask the man (young) behind the counter, "do you have the chicken breasts?" (I refrain from saying boobs to him). He replies, not yet, shortly. To which I ask, "shortly, meaning 1/2 hour?" His reply is what pissed me off, "Ma'am, I don't know, I am not driving the truck!" First of all, I HATE when people call me ma'am, and secondly, is that necessary? Simply I can't tell you what time, the truck makes deliveries to all our stores, would have sufficed.
I continued to stroll around the store looking at products, and happened to see the manager walking around. I decided to tell him what happened at the meat counter. I was pissed off. He apologized and said that even though his staff was probably just joking, the sarcasm was not necessary. He also said that he couldn't confirm when the truck would be here, since they DO in fact deliver to all the stores, BUT he would issue me a rain check for the product (we normally don't do that he says). I thanked him, and proceeded to self check out and then to customer service.
As I am about to leave the store, I bump into a friend of mine coming in and we stand and chat for a few minutes. While we were chatting, an employee runs up to me and tells me that the breasts have just arrived. So, I say good-bye and head back into the store to buy my chicken boobs.
Here is the punchline......
As I am walking BACK into the store...the manager, who is now on the 2nd floor of the store, YELLS out to me...."Ma'am....the breasts are in...."
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Pet peeves
Everyone has them...things that annoy, frustrate, piss us off and just plain get on our last nerve. I have a few of them, but there is one that comes to mind that I witnessed on Sunday that needs sharing.
I live in a condo, that just happens to be walking distance from a Winners, No Frills and a Walmart. When I first moved in, the WalMart hadn't opened yet, but the other two stores had. On a regular basis the first several months, I would come home to my home, and see several shopping carts from the stores either in the underground, at the back of the building, and at times, even in the hallways of the buidling. Why do people feel the need to bring these carts, which are private property to the stores they are essentially stealing from to the condo.
I understand that not everyone has the luxury of a car. BUT, there are countless types of carts, buggies and carry type products available in the market for people who walk to purchase to carry their parcels.
Back to the story....I had been shopping at Walmart and was driving out of the parking lot to my condo and noticed a sign that said something to the effect of, "Do not remove shopping carts. Past this boundary, the wheels lock and you will be unable to remove". Just then, I notice two people with a WalMart shopping cart ahead of me in the parking lot unable to move the cart.
I stopped and rolled down the window. The woman says to me (in broken english), "He cannot move the cart, it is stuck". To which I reply, "the sign over there says that the wheels will lock if you try to remove the cart". She looks at me dumbfounded and says, "oh really, I did not know that"..... Really, you just walked by the sign 10 steps behind where you were standing.
I drive away shaking my head and thinking maybe ignorance really is bliss.
I live in a condo, that just happens to be walking distance from a Winners, No Frills and a Walmart. When I first moved in, the WalMart hadn't opened yet, but the other two stores had. On a regular basis the first several months, I would come home to my home, and see several shopping carts from the stores either in the underground, at the back of the building, and at times, even in the hallways of the buidling. Why do people feel the need to bring these carts, which are private property to the stores they are essentially stealing from to the condo.
I understand that not everyone has the luxury of a car. BUT, there are countless types of carts, buggies and carry type products available in the market for people who walk to purchase to carry their parcels.
Back to the story....I had been shopping at Walmart and was driving out of the parking lot to my condo and noticed a sign that said something to the effect of, "Do not remove shopping carts. Past this boundary, the wheels lock and you will be unable to remove". Just then, I notice two people with a WalMart shopping cart ahead of me in the parking lot unable to move the cart.
I stopped and rolled down the window. The woman says to me (in broken english), "He cannot move the cart, it is stuck". To which I reply, "the sign over there says that the wheels will lock if you try to remove the cart". She looks at me dumbfounded and says, "oh really, I did not know that"..... Really, you just walked by the sign 10 steps behind where you were standing.
I drive away shaking my head and thinking maybe ignorance really is bliss.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Bigger is not always better
I think I am an educated consumer. I look at the flyers on line or hard copy, I buy items that are on sale, and I look for the best value for money. I was at No Frills near my house yesterday, and came across something that I found interesting.
I need to step back for a minute. I know A LOT of people (families, couples) who shop at Costco and Sam's Club (pre closure). I get that for a family, bulk shopping makes sense. But for a single person, living in a small space, buying large quantities of products doesn't work. If you buy food, the food goes bad before it is finished. If you buy products, a) there is limited storage space and b) it may take years to finish a 10 kg box of clothes soap. I need small, cost efficent items that will fit in my storage space and that I can finish before it goes bad.
Back to my story....I am addicted to any kind of disinfecting wipes. Mostly the Lysol brand because they are usually the ones on sale. Case in point....No Frills...yesterday.
The regular size package of wipes - 35 pre-moistened wipes - $1.99
The large size package of wipes - 70 pre- moistened wipes - $4.98
Why would someone pay $1.00 MORE for the same number of wipes???
What did I do? I bought two smaller packages (2 different scents) for $3.98 and saved a dollar.
By the way, I did see the MEGA size package (110 wipes) at Costco for $9.98. Which of course is not a good deal at all...3 x $1.99 (105 wipes) = $5.97 at No Frills vs. $9.98 at Costco for 110.
Which leads me to the subject line....bigger isn't always better.
Just think about this the next time you are walking through Costco and trying to decide if that is a good deal or not!
Happy shopping!
I need to step back for a minute. I know A LOT of people (families, couples) who shop at Costco and Sam's Club (pre closure). I get that for a family, bulk shopping makes sense. But for a single person, living in a small space, buying large quantities of products doesn't work. If you buy food, the food goes bad before it is finished. If you buy products, a) there is limited storage space and b) it may take years to finish a 10 kg box of clothes soap. I need small, cost efficent items that will fit in my storage space and that I can finish before it goes bad.
Back to my story....I am addicted to any kind of disinfecting wipes. Mostly the Lysol brand because they are usually the ones on sale. Case in point....No Frills...yesterday.
The regular size package of wipes - 35 pre-moistened wipes - $1.99
The large size package of wipes - 70 pre- moistened wipes - $4.98
Why would someone pay $1.00 MORE for the same number of wipes???
What did I do? I bought two smaller packages (2 different scents) for $3.98 and saved a dollar.
By the way, I did see the MEGA size package (110 wipes) at Costco for $9.98. Which of course is not a good deal at all...3 x $1.99 (105 wipes) = $5.97 at No Frills vs. $9.98 at Costco for 110.
Which leads me to the subject line....bigger isn't always better.
Just think about this the next time you are walking through Costco and trying to decide if that is a good deal or not!
Happy shopping!
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
The Jewish Holidays
I really don't have any to say about the Jewish Holidays, but my mom just sent me this YouTube video that will have you laughing off your chairs...at least it did for me!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvY98WQ5n9g
Enjoy, I did!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MvY98WQ5n9g
Enjoy, I did!
Monday, April 27, 2009
Swine Flu
Let me just give my opinion about the Swine Flu and the situations with travelling to Mexico. It is still safe to go to Mexico. Please read attached article:
http://ca.travel.yahoo.com/news/capress/090424/utravel/swine_flu_mexico_travel_2
Brad works in the US in the radio news forum. I read his facebook status last night and cheered. Someone has to show perspective. Here is his update from Sunday:
"Swine flu. U.S. population = 300 million+ and only 20 cases of the flu. No deaths here. Half a million americans die of heart attacks each year. Instead of worrying about swine flu, maybe we should think about skipping the cheeseburger for dinner?"
Here is the Canadian perspective:
Canadian Population (as of Jul 2008): 33,212,696
In 2007 - there were a reported 20,000 cases of the influenza and about 4,000 deaths in Canada. (I couldn't find the 2008 stats)
Current cases of swine flu in Canada: 6 confirmed, more 'suspected'.
Mexican Population: 109, 955,400
Confirmed swine flu cases: 103, with 400 suspected in hospital now
Flu virus information
Hotline: 1-800-454-8302.
Federal government websites: www.fightflu.ca, www.voyage.ca and www.phac.gc.ca.
2008 total number of West Nile cases in ALL of Canada - 36 confirmed in humans.
Does it scare us? Yes, it does, but let's try to keep things in perspective.
http://ca.travel.yahoo.com/news/capress/090424/utravel/swine_flu_mexico_travel_2
Brad works in the US in the radio news forum. I read his facebook status last night and cheered. Someone has to show perspective. Here is his update from Sunday:
"Swine flu. U.S. population = 300 million+ and only 20 cases of the flu. No deaths here. Half a million americans die of heart attacks each year. Instead of worrying about swine flu, maybe we should think about skipping the cheeseburger for dinner?"
Here is the Canadian perspective:
Canadian Population (as of Jul 2008): 33,212,696
In 2007 - there were a reported 20,000 cases of the influenza and about 4,000 deaths in Canada. (I couldn't find the 2008 stats)
Current cases of swine flu in Canada: 6 confirmed, more 'suspected'.
Mexican Population: 109, 955,400
Confirmed swine flu cases: 103, with 400 suspected in hospital now
Flu virus information
Hotline: 1-800-454-8302.
Federal government websites: www.fightflu.ca, www.voyage.ca and www.phac.gc.ca.
2008 total number of West Nile cases in ALL of Canada - 36 confirmed in humans.
Does it scare us? Yes, it does, but let's try to keep things in perspective.
The Good Food Festival
I worked this weekend. Not selling travel, but at the Good Food Festival (http://www.goodfoodfestival.net/) promoting the Last Minute Club (one of our companies) and handing out business cards to potential clients. I guess the first question is: "Why would a travel agent be at a food show?" The answer, a free booth!
So, we were giving away a free membership to the Last Minute Club (value $55) and a chance to win a free trip for two to Punta Cana at a five star hotel. Not too shabby, but in case you forgot the following details: in the last 10 days, one tour company went bankrupt, a plane was hijacked in Jamaica, and now we have swine flu. Oh did I forget to mention another ship got attacked by pirates off the coast of Somalia again on Friday? Don't even get me started on that!
Here is the scene of the show. Picture hall 5 at the international centre, filled with row upon row of food vendors, giving out free, did I say free, samples! The greed, and rudeness of so many of the people was unbelieveable. People who come to these shows are a very interesting breed. The walk down the aisles, with granny buggies, suitcases on wheels, or any other type of grocery carry on item with a deep pouch and wheels and looking for the free items. They would take the table cloths off the tables if they thought they were free. (aside, I did manage to obtain 4 sample packages of the free Jello product they were giving away).
It was just the ignorance and rudeness of people that I observed this weekend. We were advertising that we would giving away a "FREE" Sunquest trip. I can't count how many people actually 'challenged' us that Sunquest was the company that went out of business. I finally asked a gentleman, "Sir, do you think we could really give a trip away sponsered by a company that was no longer in business?" I mean really, need I say more? I should state, in case you don't know, it was CONquest that closed their doors, not SUNquest, who is still VERY much in the travel business.
On the positive side of the weekend's adventures, I got to spend time with my friend Lorrie chatting, laughing and catching up. We both work from home, so it was great to actually be face to face with each other and the public. Spent money on Planters nut products, Canadian Club BBQ sauce, Kettle creek chips and a HUGE jug of already peeled garlic. They said it will last 4-6 months in the freezer, but I think I will be rid of it a long time before that. I use a lot of garlic, but I think this was a bit obscene, but for the price ($2) I could handle it. Now, if only my car and condo didn't smell like garlic, I would probably be enjoying it more!
So, we were giving away a free membership to the Last Minute Club (value $55) and a chance to win a free trip for two to Punta Cana at a five star hotel. Not too shabby, but in case you forgot the following details: in the last 10 days, one tour company went bankrupt, a plane was hijacked in Jamaica, and now we have swine flu. Oh did I forget to mention another ship got attacked by pirates off the coast of Somalia again on Friday? Don't even get me started on that!
Here is the scene of the show. Picture hall 5 at the international centre, filled with row upon row of food vendors, giving out free, did I say free, samples! The greed, and rudeness of so many of the people was unbelieveable. People who come to these shows are a very interesting breed. The walk down the aisles, with granny buggies, suitcases on wheels, or any other type of grocery carry on item with a deep pouch and wheels and looking for the free items. They would take the table cloths off the tables if they thought they were free. (aside, I did manage to obtain 4 sample packages of the free Jello product they were giving away).
It was just the ignorance and rudeness of people that I observed this weekend. We were advertising that we would giving away a "FREE" Sunquest trip. I can't count how many people actually 'challenged' us that Sunquest was the company that went out of business. I finally asked a gentleman, "Sir, do you think we could really give a trip away sponsered by a company that was no longer in business?" I mean really, need I say more? I should state, in case you don't know, it was CONquest that closed their doors, not SUNquest, who is still VERY much in the travel business.
On the positive side of the weekend's adventures, I got to spend time with my friend Lorrie chatting, laughing and catching up. We both work from home, so it was great to actually be face to face with each other and the public. Spent money on Planters nut products, Canadian Club BBQ sauce, Kettle creek chips and a HUGE jug of already peeled garlic. They said it will last 4-6 months in the freezer, but I think I will be rid of it a long time before that. I use a lot of garlic, but I think this was a bit obscene, but for the price ($2) I could handle it. Now, if only my car and condo didn't smell like garlic, I would probably be enjoying it more!
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Sit on it Potsie
For anyone who doesn't know, I had a car accident on February 21st, 2009. I am feeling much better now, and that is thanks to an amazing therapy clinic not far from my house. I go there twice a week and have massage therapy, active release therapy and acupuncture. The doctor's and therapists are amazing and they have been teaching me a lot, as well as helping me in the process.
So...back to the story. I was having my massage therapy yesterday, and there were some very tender spots in my lower back, hips, butt area. While he was trying to work them out (believe me, it hurts), he told me that I could work on it myself at home. I don't know about anyone else who has massages, but sometimes I hold my breath during the pain. I have been advised that it is not good to hold your breath, since you are not allowing oxygen to come back into the body and help the muscles. See what I mean about learning new things.
Back to the butt......he told me to take a golf ball or tennis ball and sit on it. Yes, I said sit on it, roll it around until you find the tender spot and then work out the tension with the ball. The first thought that popped into my head was the show "Happy Days". You all know it and loved it, and Ralph Mouth always used to say, "Ah, sit on it Potsie". I almost laughed out loud, but the pain got in the way.
At the end, I asked him again what to, and he showed me. It looks funny, and I haven't tried it yet, so I will update once I do.
It gives a whole new spin on the saying, "sit on this and rotate...."
So...back to the story. I was having my massage therapy yesterday, and there were some very tender spots in my lower back, hips, butt area. While he was trying to work them out (believe me, it hurts), he told me that I could work on it myself at home. I don't know about anyone else who has massages, but sometimes I hold my breath during the pain. I have been advised that it is not good to hold your breath, since you are not allowing oxygen to come back into the body and help the muscles. See what I mean about learning new things.
Back to the butt......he told me to take a golf ball or tennis ball and sit on it. Yes, I said sit on it, roll it around until you find the tender spot and then work out the tension with the ball. The first thought that popped into my head was the show "Happy Days". You all know it and loved it, and Ralph Mouth always used to say, "Ah, sit on it Potsie". I almost laughed out loud, but the pain got in the way.
At the end, I asked him again what to, and he showed me. It looks funny, and I haven't tried it yet, so I will update once I do.
It gives a whole new spin on the saying, "sit on this and rotate...."
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Mail delivery
When I lived at my parents house, I used to love getting mail. I remember always asking my mother when I spoke to her from work, "did I get any mail?" Now, mail is just a pain in the ass.
You are probably saying, well of course mail is a pain the ass, it is always full of bills. But that is not the only reason.
For those of you who live (or have lived in a building/condo) and park in an underground parking spot, you know what I mean. The mail room is NOT user friendly. When I park my car underground, and always have something in my hand, the last thing I want to do is go to the ground floor, down the hall to the mail room, get the mail, go back to the elevator and upstairs to my suite. So, I don't check the mail every day, or every week. Well, usually once at week on Fridays so I have the whole week's worth of mail to go through.
Now, that is another thing, usually there is very little mail there of any value. There are coupons, and flyers, flyers and more garbage. AND the same real estate agent(s) flyers every week. I get that they want me to remember them when I am ready to sell, I really do, but every week is not necessary.
I am not being naive, I know that the mail can't be delivered to each individual suite as they do with houses, it is just one aspect of apartment living that takes getting used to. Or maybe you never do...I probably won't. Can't be bothered.
You are probably saying, well of course mail is a pain the ass, it is always full of bills. But that is not the only reason.
For those of you who live (or have lived in a building/condo) and park in an underground parking spot, you know what I mean. The mail room is NOT user friendly. When I park my car underground, and always have something in my hand, the last thing I want to do is go to the ground floor, down the hall to the mail room, get the mail, go back to the elevator and upstairs to my suite. So, I don't check the mail every day, or every week. Well, usually once at week on Fridays so I have the whole week's worth of mail to go through.
Now, that is another thing, usually there is very little mail there of any value. There are coupons, and flyers, flyers and more garbage. AND the same real estate agent(s) flyers every week. I get that they want me to remember them when I am ready to sell, I really do, but every week is not necessary.
I am not being naive, I know that the mail can't be delivered to each individual suite as they do with houses, it is just one aspect of apartment living that takes getting used to. Or maybe you never do...I probably won't. Can't be bothered.
Monday, April 20, 2009
Seasonal cleaning
Because I work from home now, I spend a lot of time in my condo. I have realized that in the two plus years I have been living here, I have accumulated A LOT of stuff. It isn't a big place, and I even had shelving space added to my cupboards last summer, but as things go, I am running out of space.
The simple answer is, get rid of it...ALL OF IT! But that is easier said then done. My office has a lof of work related items in it. The funny thing is that when I had my cubicle at the office, where did I put all this stuff, because I had less space there than I have here, and I managed okay....simple rule, the more space you have, the more stuff you have to put in the space.
That would hold true to my closets. Considering I didn't shop for that many clothes this fall/winter season (didn't really need to, didn't have to go to an office every day), at yet, the cupboards are FULL!!!
I know...I know...de clutter, get rid of what I haven't worn in a year. It all sounds great in theory. I just need to put the theory to the test. The office is coming along, bags and bags to the garbage room. It is starting to make a difference.
The closet...well, another story....but that is a work in progress. If anyone gets a call from Diabetes or another organization about a clothes pick up, and you are in my area, let me know. I will be ready, if I have to be.
The simple answer is, get rid of it...ALL OF IT! But that is easier said then done. My office has a lof of work related items in it. The funny thing is that when I had my cubicle at the office, where did I put all this stuff, because I had less space there than I have here, and I managed okay....simple rule, the more space you have, the more stuff you have to put in the space.
That would hold true to my closets. Considering I didn't shop for that many clothes this fall/winter season (didn't really need to, didn't have to go to an office every day), at yet, the cupboards are FULL!!!
I know...I know...de clutter, get rid of what I haven't worn in a year. It all sounds great in theory. I just need to put the theory to the test. The office is coming along, bags and bags to the garbage room. It is starting to make a difference.
The closet...well, another story....but that is a work in progress. If anyone gets a call from Diabetes or another organization about a clothes pick up, and you are in my area, let me know. I will be ready, if I have to be.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
New Orleans
As I mentioned before, I just recently went to New Orleans with my friend Brad. Finding the right person to travel with can be hard, and I am so happy that I have found that person. He makes me walk everywhere, and I mean EVERYWHERE! When I went to visit him in New York in August (Never again) and we were walking and walking for a long time, when I asked him, "how much farther?" He replied, "a couple more blocks". Well, for those of you who have never been to NYC or know about the grid, there are short blocks and LONG blocks...these were a couple of long blocks....I digress.
Walking in New Orleans was amazing. The French quarter is filled with amazing art galleries, fantastic restaurants and lots to see. In Jackson Square on the weekends, there are local artists who have amazing talent showing and selling their art on the street. There are street preformers that made me think about being in Barcelona on Las Ramblas. It was so much fun.
The food in New Orleans is fantastic. Brad and I went to Paris and believe it or not, didn't have the best food experiences there (except for the pastries) but in NOLA, the food was awesome. I tried new things like Shrimp and Crawfish Etouffee (Definition: A spicy and delicious Cajun stew traditionally made with crawfish, vegetables and a dark roux. Étouffée is usually served over rice. The word comes from the French étouffer, which means to smother). I also had Jambalaya, anduee sausage and of course Beignettes from Cafe du Monde (http://www.cafedumonde.com/). That was great. I am sure that there were more 'local' places to have great beignettes, but Cafe du Monde is where you would go to experience your first one.
I would be remiss if I didn't mention Bourbon Street. It doesn't matter how many pictures or tv shots you see, until you are walking down the middle of the street after dark live, you haven't see Bourbon Streeet. During the day, the street is open to car traffic, and nothing much is going on (because all the partiers sleep during the day, party at night). There are countless beer trucks unloading their wares for the upcoming evening activities. But at night, it is pedestrian traffic only. Anything goes on Bourbon, and usually does. The smell is not the greatest, but it is the most interesting aray of people you could imagine.
Music is a huge part of NOLA. You can stand in the middle of the street and close your eyes, and there is music from everywhere. I thought I would hear more Jazz, but there was rock, cover bands, motown and the coolest Karaoke bar I have ever been to (well, probably my first, I don't do karaoke). The bar is called Kats Meow (http://catskaraoke.com/). The cool thing is that between the turns of the people singing, there are amazing hosts that keep the mood and the upbeat flow going. They are true entertainers and we saw three different hosts, 1 male 2 female and they were each incredible. There was also a good mix of not so good karoake guests, and then the amazing ones who must go regularily at home or if they are local.
On Monday, before we left for the airport, we walked back to French Quarter to have lunch. I read in the magazine at the hotel about a Jazz brunch at a famous restaurant called "Court of two sisters" (http://www.courtoftwosisters.com/). We had a hard time finding it, but when we did it was worth the wait. We were led to the back outdoor courtyard with umbrellas, white table cloths lattice and flowers, trees and of course the music. The lunch was buffet style and the food was once again, amazing. I normally don't like unsweetened iced tea, but this tea was so refreshing and enjoyable.
Once again, another amazing vacation was over, and as we took the shuttle back to the airport we were on the bus with some other people and everyone has a story....one couple was there for a american/indian wedding weekend, two guys were there for a week from London England (originally India) and us. Everyone has a story to tell, share, experience.
Walking in New Orleans was amazing. The French quarter is filled with amazing art galleries, fantastic restaurants and lots to see. In Jackson Square on the weekends, there are local artists who have amazing talent showing and selling their art on the street. There are street preformers that made me think about being in Barcelona on Las Ramblas. It was so much fun.
The food in New Orleans is fantastic. Brad and I went to Paris and believe it or not, didn't have the best food experiences there (except for the pastries) but in NOLA, the food was awesome. I tried new things like Shrimp and Crawfish Etouffee (Definition: A spicy and delicious Cajun stew traditionally made with crawfish, vegetables and a dark roux. Étouffée is usually served over rice. The word comes from the French étouffer, which means to smother). I also had Jambalaya, anduee sausage and of course Beignettes from Cafe du Monde (http://www.cafedumonde.com/). That was great. I am sure that there were more 'local' places to have great beignettes, but Cafe du Monde is where you would go to experience your first one.
I would be remiss if I didn't mention Bourbon Street. It doesn't matter how many pictures or tv shots you see, until you are walking down the middle of the street after dark live, you haven't see Bourbon Streeet. During the day, the street is open to car traffic, and nothing much is going on (because all the partiers sleep during the day, party at night). There are countless beer trucks unloading their wares for the upcoming evening activities. But at night, it is pedestrian traffic only. Anything goes on Bourbon, and usually does. The smell is not the greatest, but it is the most interesting aray of people you could imagine.
Music is a huge part of NOLA. You can stand in the middle of the street and close your eyes, and there is music from everywhere. I thought I would hear more Jazz, but there was rock, cover bands, motown and the coolest Karaoke bar I have ever been to (well, probably my first, I don't do karaoke). The bar is called Kats Meow (http://catskaraoke.com/). The cool thing is that between the turns of the people singing, there are amazing hosts that keep the mood and the upbeat flow going. They are true entertainers and we saw three different hosts, 1 male 2 female and they were each incredible. There was also a good mix of not so good karoake guests, and then the amazing ones who must go regularily at home or if they are local.
On Monday, before we left for the airport, we walked back to French Quarter to have lunch. I read in the magazine at the hotel about a Jazz brunch at a famous restaurant called "Court of two sisters" (http://www.courtoftwosisters.com/). We had a hard time finding it, but when we did it was worth the wait. We were led to the back outdoor courtyard with umbrellas, white table cloths lattice and flowers, trees and of course the music. The lunch was buffet style and the food was once again, amazing. I normally don't like unsweetened iced tea, but this tea was so refreshing and enjoyable.
Once again, another amazing vacation was over, and as we took the shuttle back to the airport we were on the bus with some other people and everyone has a story....one couple was there for a american/indian wedding weekend, two guys were there for a week from London England (originally India) and us. Everyone has a story to tell, share, experience.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
The Mile High Club
For those of you of know me, you know that I always have a story to tell. Last week someone told me that I should write a book, because of my never ending aray of stories that I can share with you at any given moment. So, as I sat in the airport on Friday waiting to board my plane to New Orleans, I thought...hey, I can blog....can't I???
So, now I am on the plane, with no paper to pen to jot down the countless thoughts running through my head when I had to get up to use the bathroom. While I am in the lavatory, I am wondering how people even have the room to do the necessary 'deed' to join the Mile High Club. Not only is there not enough room to 'swing a cat' (someone used that the other day and I thought it was a very funny analogy), but it is dirty and disgusting and doesn't really smell very appealing. Who would volunteer to have sex in a airplane washroom?
So, now I am on the plane, with no paper to pen to jot down the countless thoughts running through my head when I had to get up to use the bathroom. While I am in the lavatory, I am wondering how people even have the room to do the necessary 'deed' to join the Mile High Club. Not only is there not enough room to 'swing a cat' (someone used that the other day and I thought it was a very funny analogy), but it is dirty and disgusting and doesn't really smell very appealing. Who would volunteer to have sex in a airplane washroom?
Random thoughts, they are never ending, and neither are my stories.
Stay tuned.....
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)